[podcast] [coaching] Anonymous client on confidence in the face of job interviews and comfort in social settings

An anonymous client receives support on maintaining confidence during job searches and dealing with unease in social settings. Tips include learning how to say no to social invitations even if you don’t have other plans and how to use “I don’t know” to your advantage in job interviews.

This is season 3's last episode. Request from Masha -- if any of these episodes or the resources shared within have helped you or meant something to you, please reach out to masha@boldadulting.com to let me know. I'm not sure when the next season will be, but I promise it is coming. Suggestions for guests (including yourself!), topics, other podcasts you'd like to hear me on, or just a hello are very much appreciated. Reach out anytime :)

NOTE from Masha: As these episode are being released, the world is dealing with the coronavirus crisis. Because all episodes in the season were recorded well in advance, this is not discussed on the show. I hope that you will apply the same themes that we discuss throughout the Bold Adulting podcast to coping and supporting both yourself and others in your community (including the global community) --

• reaching out to people (virtually)

• figuring out what you want to make progress on and making a plan

• being open about what you're going through with the people who you feel comfortable sharing with

• looking for evidence-based resources

• remembering that you are not alone

If you want to connect with me to discuss what you're going through (about this or anything else), please feel free to email me or find me on Facebook (send me a message letting me know you found me through the podcast).

I also strongly suggest connecting with other caring and compassionate people through the Facebook group Distance Resistance (which I don't run but I participate in) which is about staying connected even while we have to stay apart. You can also find a lot of information there about getting help or giving help -- this is a is moment to come together.

end of coronavirus talk, back to regularly scheduled programming

Mentioned in this episode:

• Homework: What Do I Like

• Homework: Mindful Moment

• Homework: In the Moment

• Jordan Jesse Go podcast’s suggestion of pulling out a power jam with your mind to improve your mood

• Dorie Clark’s networking tips

• Association of Women in Science - San Diego

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Discuss this episode or learn about hiring Masha for workshop (about making progress on goals that matter to you using antiperfectionism and authenticity) at BoldAdulting.com!

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Email: masha@boldadulting.com

Masha’s personal social media: Twitter & Instagram

All coaching sessions and interviews are included by permission and with the level of privacy requested by each guest. 

Bold Adulting season 3 episodes were recorded over a year ago. To hear updates or to learn what podcast guests have been up to since then, reach out using the contact information if provided. 

Host: Masha Evpak
Sound Editor: Bart Cameron and Masha Evpak

[podcast] Director of Postdoctoral Affairs Angela Fowler on balancing family and research, and dealing with chronic health problems in grad school. Plus: tips for professional development!

Director of Postdoctoral Affairs Angela Fowler shares about persevering through her PhD after a rocky start and navigating how much to share about chronic health problems (from endometriosis & hip pain) with her committee members. Bonus: Angela shares some great tips for professional development!

NOTE from Masha: As these episode are being released, the world is dealing with the coronavirus crisis. Because all episodes in the season were recorded well in advance, this is not discussed on the show. I hope that you will apply the same themes that we discuss throughout the Bold Adulting podcast to coping and supporting both yourself and others in your community (including the global community) --

• reaching out to people (virtually)

• figuring out what you want to make progress on and making a plan

• being open about what you're going through with the people who you feel comfortable sharing with

• looking for evidence-based resources

• remembering that you are not alone

If you want to connect with me to discuss what you're going through (about this or anything else), please feel free to email me or find me on Facebook (send me a message letting me know you found me through the podcast).

I also strongly suggest connecting with other caring and compassionate people through the Facebook group Distance Resistance (which I don't run but I participate in) which is about staying connected even while we have to stay apart. You can also find a lot of information there about getting help or giving help -- this is a is moment to come together.

end of coronavirus talk, back to regularly scheduled programming:

Contact Angela:

Email: afthescientist@gmail.com

Twitter & LinkedIn

Mentioned in this episode:

• Pittsburg State University 

• University of Kansas

• MAPS (Mentorship, Advisors, Peers, and Sponsorship) Groups for Women in Bio

• La Jolla Institute for Immunology 

• Tip: Informational interviews to learn more about the careers you’re interested in and make connections

  • Use this free 7 Step Guide for Confidently Reaching Out to Anyone to set them up!

• Interview with Graduate Career Counselor Guilia Hoffmann part 1 and part 2 

• Tip - have projects outside of grad work (helps your professional development and your mental health) 

• LinkedIn for professional development

  • Some tips for using LinkedIn are in this article 

  • Tip: the founder of LinkedIn has a podcast called Masters of Scale which interviews entrepreneurs of major businesses. The 10 New Rules for Big Career Changes episode has great career tips even for those who have no interest in having their own business.   

• Endometriosis 

• Professional Pathways class at the UCSD Biology PhD Program

• Nisha Cavanaugh

• Dorie Clark’s book Reinventing You

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Masha’s personal social media: Twitter & Instagram

All coaching sessions and interviews are included by permission and with the level of privacy requested by each guest. 

Bold Adulting season 3 episodes were recorded over a year ago. To hear updates or to learn what podcast guests have been up to since then, reach out using the contact information if provided. 

Host: Masha Evpak
Sound Editor: Bart Cameron and Masha Evpak

[podcast] Grad students explore confidence and problem-solving to make progress on their career goals [workshop audio]

In a Bold Adulting workshop, a group of UC San Diego Grad Women in Computing grad students explore how to feel confident in the face of struggles, strategize about solving their problems, and discuss the extra obstacles that international students can face. Note - The audio in this episode isn’t perfect, but I hope you’ll still find it worth a listen. (I’ve since improved my ability to record my workshops.) - Masha

NOTE from Masha: As these episode are being released, the world is dealing with the coronavirus crisis. Because all episodes in the season were recorded well in advance, this is not discussed on the show. I hope that you will apply the same themes that we discuss throughout the Bold Adulting podcast to coping and supporting both yourself and others in your community (including the global community) --

• reaching out to people (virtually)

• figuring out what you want to make progress on and making a plan

• being open about what you're going through with the people who you feel comfortable sharing with

• looking for evidence-based resources

• remembering that you are not alone

If you want to connect with me to discuss what you're going through (about this or anything else), please feel free to email me or find me on Facebook (send me a message letting me know you found me through the podcast).

I also strongly suggest connecting with other caring and compassionate people through the Facebook group Distance Resistance (which I don't run but I participate in) which is about staying connected even while we have to stay apart. You can also find a lot of information there about getting help or giving help -- this is a is moment to come together.

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See the activities covered in Success in Grad School & Beyond workshops and fill out this interest form if you might want to book a workshop. 

• These workshops are great for any group who wants to improve their career confidence and make progress for goals! 

Mentioned in this episode:

• Grad Women in Computing

  • Huge thanks to Ailie Frasier (LinkedIn, Twitter), Trisha Ngoon (LinkedIn, Twitter), and Steven Rick (LinkedIn, Twitter) for bringing Masha in to work with your amazing group! 

• The Getting To Know You activity has participants use the American Sign Language (ASL) signs SAME and DIFFERENT to visually see how they relate to each other.

  • Note: Masha knows a lot of American Sign Language, but isn't fluent yet. She consulted with an expert in Deaf culture/sign language to make sure this is an ok use of a language, so as to avoid appropriating another culture. If you have any thoughts about this or anything else, please feel free to email: masha@boldadulting.com 

• Siering/Wilson Award to Support Undergraduate Research in Microbial Ecology Endowment Fund

  • This foundation was formed in honor of the memory of Patty Siering, one of the most talented and caring professors and mentors I’ve ever had, who passed away in 2017.

• Success in Grad School & Beyond workshops slides 

• Useful quotes:

  • “You're never going to get the proof you want that shows you're doing okay, because other people telling you that doesn't seem convincing to you. You just tell yourself that those people don't really see what's going on. The one thing we forget to be critical of is our own ability to assess ourselves.” -Mizuho Ota (microbiologist)

• “I think everyone should think of science as a profession just like any other, such as carpentry. You don't start with the big saws and power tools and try to build a house. You first make a table using a hand saw and a hammer.” - Bahram Kheradmand (bee behavioral biologist

• Recovering Academic podcast

• Confidence Cat demonstration of Growth Mindset (that link has other Confidence Cat art too)

• Imposter syndrome Halloween costume picture can be found on these slides or on her art page  

• Biz Chix podcast word of year. Masha’s so far have been:

  • 2018: patience

  • 2019: systems

  • 2020: growth

• Brad Voytek on why his curriculum vitae (~resume) lists his failures & rejections 

• BetterLateThanNever.email - a website to normalize the common experience of being behind on responding to emails & other messages.

  • Note #1: This website is in a drafty draft mode. If you have ideas about how to make this website useful for getting back in touch after a while of not responding, please let me know at masha@boldadulting.com 

    1. This is inspired by Reply All podcast’s Email Debt Forgiveness Day

  • Note #2: In the episode, Masha mentions that referencing a website that normalizes the experience of taking a long time to respond to a message means that you can reply with 'no guilt'. To be clear, it's not that a late response/lack of a response is something that never does harm. It is sometimes appropriate to apologize for harm that may have been caused by email etiquette issues. Certainly, if not responding means that another person missed a deadline or that you didn't follow through on a commitment, it is best to take responsibility. However, too often, people feel guilt even if a) it hasn't actually been a long time, b) there was no real negative consequence, and/or c) your circumstances mean that it is understandable that some things would have fallen through the cracks. Even if you feel bad, the most important thing is to get back in touch rather than never reach out again because of your bad feels.   

• Tip: To feel better, play music. If you aren’t in a situation where you can play music, podcaster and Maximum Fun founder Jesse Thorn shares that he “whips out a power jam with his mind” (think of music in your head) 

• Confidence Cat Zine - coloring worksheets for confidence, career success, and problem-solving

• Everything Is Awful and I’m Not Ok: Questions to ask before giving up

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Discuss this episode or learn about hiring Masha for workshop (about making progress on goals that matter to you using antiperfectionism and authenticity) at BoldAdulting.com!

Follow BoldAdulting on Twitter.

Email: masha@boldadulting.com

Masha’s personal social media: Twitter & Instagram

All coaching sessions and interviews are included by permission and with the level of privacy requested by each guest. 

Bold Adulting season 3 episodes were recorded over a year ago. To hear updates or to learn what podcast guests have been up to since then, reach out using the contact information if provided. 

Host: Masha Evpak
Sound Editor: Bart Cameron and Masha Evpak

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Courage the Confidence Cat reminds us to sleep:

[podcast] Podcaster and Voice Actor & Coach Tawny Platis on the confidence roller coaster of auditioning for voice artist roles [part 1 of 2] [content warning: eating disorders & body shame]

[content warning: eating disorders & body shame]

In episode 1 of a two-part episode, Voice Actor and Coach, Podcaster, and Marketing Specialist Tawny Platis shares about what makes her confidence waver, how teaching helps remind her how far she’s come, and and how she keeps picking up the phone even knowing rejections are common in voice acting. We also discuss how being a generalist makes her a stronger communicator. 

Email Tawny 

Find Tawny on her: 

• personal accounts

  • website, 

  • Facebook

  • Instagram

• Death is Hilarious (previously known as The Dirty Bits) podcast

  • Patreon page - support the podcast & get extra content!

  • website

  • Instagram of the former Dirty Bits podcast

• Tawny Voice

  • Facebook page 

  • Instagram

  • Twitter

• And

  • Facebook group The Lovebug Brigade

Mentioned in this episode:

• Tip: To improve your confidence, teach others what you know

• Dialectical behavioral therapy (finding healthier coping mechanisms)

• Masha’s list of ways to feel better includes blowing bubbles, taking a walk, swimming, or petting Courage the Confidence Cat

  1. What’s on your list? Share by emailing masha@boldadulting.com or via Twitter or Instagram 

• Voice actor Tara Strong - PowerPuff Girls, Rugrats, and many more

• Confidence Cat Zine - coloring worksheets for confidence, career success, and problem-solving  

• Thug Notes

• Drunk History

• Adam Ruins Everything

• 7 Celebrities You Wouldn’t Believe Have Imposter Syndrome

  • This was a video Masha made in 2016, the first project she made in iMovie. In the spirit of antiperfectionism, she recognizes the ways it could be better lit & more engaging, without judging herself for this drafty draft

  • Tina Fey: "The beauty of the impostor syndrome is you vacillate between extreme egomania, and a complete feeling of: ‘I’m a fraud! Oh god, they’re on to me! I’m a fraud!’" 

• Ira Glass’s insightful quote about The Gap that creatives experience in their early years between their taste/ambitions/ideas and their skills 

• Nick Howell of Orbital Jigsaw podcast network, the network that Dirty Bits used to be on

• BizChix business podcast

• Unreal show

• Hannah of Film Roast

• Lori of Zencastr for helping me fix some audio issues

  • Note: Zencastr is a great way to record podcasts long distance

• Generalists: people who learn about a lot of things at less detail than specialists, e.g. many science or history communicators

  • Masha used to be heavily involved in science communication  

In this 2-part interview, we talk about how Diet Culture shapes the our relationships with food and movement. In case you or someone you know needs it, here is some possibly helpful information: 

• Eating Disorder Hotline Listings

• International Eating Disorder Resources

• Body Dysmorphic Disorder

• Body Liberation

Tawny’s dog Babbs says hi:

Masha's cat Courage the Confidence Cat also says hi:

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Discuss this episode or learn about hiring Masha for workshop (about making progress on goals that matter to you using antiperfectionism and authenticity) at BoldAdulting.com!

Follow BoldAdulting on Twitter.

Email: masha@boldadulting.com

Masha’s personal social media: Twitter & Instagram

All coaching sessions and interviews are included by permission and with the level of privacy requested by each guest. 

Bold Adulting season 3 episodes were recorded over a year ago. To hear updates or to learn what podcast guests have been up to since then, reach out using the contact information if provided. 

Host: Masha Evpak
Sound Editor: Bart Cameron and Masha Evpak

[podcast] [coaching] Shijia on asking for and dealing with feedback in science careers

Shijia gets help on her confidence as it relates to doing science/grad school in a non-native language, asking for feedback, and comfort interacting with men as a result of cultural upbringing.  

• Homework: Ask for feedback 

  • Tip: Ask for 1 thing you did well and 1 thing you did better (to avoid receiving the “It was good but…” structure of feedback)

  • Tip: If it’s written feedback, read it while you’re well-rested and relaxed (if possible)

• Tip: Prepare for but don’t avoid awkwardness

• Growth mindset: don’t feel limited by the skills you currently have

  • My late grandpa Yuriy had this, as he spoke to Americans even when he wasn’t fluent after we moved to the US from Russia. I recently found an amazing home video of him telling a joke in English, making people erupt in laughter, and then being delighted that he was understood  

• Homework: List the benefits of the struggles and learning opportunities you’ve had. Examples: 

  • Having English as a 2nd language can provide skills for then learning the language of science

  • Having to work while in college teaches organizing, prioritizing, multitasking, whatever skills that job required, and is actually better than having a resume that has only education

• Homework: Mindfulness (letting thoughts slip away)

  • Tip: Avoiding Pink Elephants (think of a better thought to replace an unhelpful thought pattern, as just trying to avoid thoughts tends to reinforce them

  • Tip: Track unhelpful thoughts by moving pennies from one pocket to another or by using a tally

• Tip: Defer anxiety to a later point

• Christy Harrison’s Intuitive Eating Fundamental Class (a mini course is available) and Food Psych podcast 

• Tip: Use Masterminds (feedback groups) for making progress on research projects or anything else you’re trying to get done

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Discuss this episode or learn about hiring Masha for workshop (about making progress on goals that matter to you using antiperfectionism and authenticity) at BoldAdulting.com!

Follow BoldAdulting on Twitter.

Email: masha@boldadulting.com

Masha’s personal social media: Twitter & Instagram

All coaching sessions and interviews are included by permission and with the level of privacy requested by each guest. 

Bold Adulting season 3 episodes were recorded over a year ago. To hear updates or to learn what podcast guests have been up to since then, reach out using the contact information if provided. 

Host: Masha Evpak
Sound Editor: Bart Cameron and Masha Evpak

[podcast] [coaching] Lucy on awkward moments and achieving goals

In this confidence coaching session, Lucy gets help 1) navigating awkward conversational moments and 2) identifying goals and taking action. Please forgive us for some background noise. :)

Mentioned in this episode:

• Trying is cool - Lucy

• Greater Good Storytelling: coaching and workshops by storytelling consultant Nathan Young

• Tip by Lucy: Imagine you’re a cricket watching a reel of your past moments, to reflect on what went well and what you can do differently next time

  • Note: Be careful not to over-ruminate. Part of the reason Lucy finds this helpful is because it helps her not overly fixate on awkward moments.

• Homework: Practice mindfulness, letting your thoughts swim or float away

• Homework: Nervous about how you’re coming across to friends or coworkers? Ask for feedback

  • Tip: To prevent the “it was good but…” format of feedback, ask for one thing you’re doing well and one way you could do better

• BetterLateThanNever.email - a website to normalize the common experience of being behind on responding to emails & other messages.

  • Note: This website is in a drafty draft mode. If you have ideas about how to make this website useful for getting back in touch after a while of not responding, please let me know at masha@boldadulting.com

• Totally Laime podcast

• Seinfeld productivity method

  • Note: Although this “don’t break the chain” system of getting things done every day is attributed to Jerry Seinfeld, the origin has been disputed

• Homework: 100 Rejection Letters Challenge

  • Tiffany Han

  • Jia Jiang’s Rejection Therapy including Dare Me app

  • Kim Liao’s Why You Should Aim for 100 Rejections a Year

  • I heard about this challenge from Elizabeth Gilbert’s Magic Lessons podcast which is a MUST-LISTEN for any creative person who needs a confidence boost

• Rejection Game but please anyone who tries this, please be ethical and aware of power dynamics. Examples:

  • Don’t ask out someone who you supervise.

  • Don’t hassle customer service employees with uncomfortable tasks they may feel obligated to do for tips.

  • Don’t ask women or people of color in professions dominated by white males to take on a disproportionate amount of tasks that don’t advance their profession.

• Keeping all that in mind, go out and face your fears!

• Bullet Journal to organize goal progress in a way that best matches your preferences and needs

  • You can do it really simply but if you want some more fun, try this and this.

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Discuss this episode or learn about hiring Masha for workshop (about making progress on goals that matter to you using antiperfectionism and authenticity) at BoldAdulting.com!

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All coaching sessions and interviews are included by permission and with the level of privacy requested by each guest. 

Bold Adulting season 3 episodes were recorded over a year ago. To hear updates or to learn what podcast guests have been up to since then, reach out using the contact information if provided. 

Host: Masha Evpak
Sound Editor: Masha Evpak and Bart Cameron

[podcast] Business Coach Geraldine Carter on how she helps entrepreneurs find the confidence to learn from their mistakes

Business Coach Geraldine Carter shares how she helps women entrepreneurs find their confidence while growing their businesses, how she navigates career transitions when the path ahead is uncertain, and how she notices norms without conforming to all of them. 

Mentioned on the episode:

• She Thinks Big (formerly Focused Business Coaching), including Geraldine’s podcast and Facebook

• Climate Ride

• Free - 7 Step Guide For Confidently Reaching Out to Anyone

• Biz Chix podcast

• One Bad Mother podcast

• Why complimenting weight loss is a bad idea

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Discuss this episode or learn about hiring Masha for workshop (about making progress on goals that matter to you using antiperfectionism and authenticity) at BoldAdulting.com!

Follow BoldAdulting on Twitter.

Email: masha@boldadulting.com

Masha’s personal social media: Twitter & Instagram

All coaching sessions and interviews are included by permission and with the level of privacy requested by each guest. 

Bold Adulting season 3 episodes were recorded over a year ago. To hear updates or to learn what podcast guests have been up to since then, reach out using the contact information if provided. 

Host: Masha Evpak
Sound Editor: Bart Cameron

[podcast] Podcaster and Writer Jordan Morris on persevering through the ups & downs in entertainment industry careers [part 2]

In part 2 of a two-part interview, Podcaster and writer Jordan Morris shares his experience with self-soothing when unemployed, how self-esteem affects his social anxiety, why it can be hard to feel ok about downtime in a culture that expects constant productivity, and why sharing a creative project can be more daunting than creating it. 

Jordan’s Twitter

Jordan’s website

Previous episode of Bold Adulting with Jordan, about confidence and adulting moments in his sci-fi podcast Bubble

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Discuss this episode or learn about hiring Masha for workshop (about making progress on goals that matter to you using antiperfectionism and authenticity) at BoldAdulting.com!

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Email: masha@boldadulting.com

Masha’s personal social media: Twitter & Instagram

All coaching sessions and interviews are included by permission and with the level of privacy requested by each guest. 

Bold Adulting season 3 episodes were recorded over a year ago. To hear updates or to learn what podcast guests have been up to since then, reach out using the contact information if provided. 

Host: Masha Evpak

Sound Editor: Bart Cameron

[podcast] Bold Adulting season 3 coming Jan 2020!

The Bold Adulting podcast is coming soon! 

We’ve been away focusing on a bunch of things, including creating resources to help YOU with your confidence, authenticity, and confidence. 

The next Bold Adulting podcast season fill feature 8 confidence coaching sessions, 5 interviews, and the audio from a Success in Grad School & Beyond workshop. 

Reach out to Masha: masha@boldadulting.com

If you like the show, please leave a 5-star review in the iTunes store/Podcast app, even if that’s not how you listen to the show. :)

Mentioned in this episode:

• Bold Adulting seasons 1 and 2

• Lift Live business conference by Mirasee

• Thanks to Gena Ferrabee and Dori Zabari for super helpful coaching & strategy sessions!

• Confidence Cat Zine: coloring worksheets for confidence, problem-solving, and career decision-making

• Free resources including 7 Step Guide For Confidently Reaching Out to Anyone

• Interviews to come:

  • Podcaster and Writer Jordan Morris

  • Business Coach Geraldine Carter

  • Transformational Life Coach Shannon Parsons

  • Voice Actor & Coach Tawny Platis

  • Office of Postdoctoral Affairs Director Angela Fowler

• Confidence coaching topics to come include:

  • Dealing with awkward moments

  • Achieving goals

  • Body confidence

  • Letting go of perfectionism

  • Finding the confidence and organization to make big projects (with a social mission!)

  • Anticipating judgment on first dates

  • Entrepreneurial jitters

  • Feedback in science careers (applicable to everyone)

  • Job interviews

  • Social anxiety

• Listener shoutouts:

  • Katharina

  • Laura

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Discuss this episode or learn about hiring Masha for workshop (about making progress on goals that matter to you using antiperfectionism and authenticity) at BoldAdulting.com!

Follow BoldAdulting on Twitter.

Email: masha@boldadulting.com

Masha’s personal social media: Twitter & Instagram

All coaching sessions and interviews are included by permission and with the level of privacy requested by each guest. 

Bold Adulting season 3 episodes were recorded over a year ago. To hear updates or to learn what podcast guests have been up to since then, reach out using the contact information if provided.